If you Google “success”, you’ll come up with some
400,000,000 hits. Google “success quotations” and you’ll fine 11,400.
“Success in life”, and you’ll have 1,100,000 options from which to
choose.

Folks love success quotes. So, here’s a few and perhaps you might be curious about what they have in common:

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“A
man is a success if he gets up in the morning and gets to bed at night,
and in between he does what he wants to do.” Bob Dylan

“Try not
to become a man of success, but rather to become a man of value. He is
considered successful in our day who gets more out of life than he puts
in. But a man of value will give more than he receives.” Albert Einstein

“Just
as the tumultuous chaos of a thunderstorm brings a nurturing rain that
allows life to flourish, so too in human affairs times of advancement
are preceded by times of disorder. Success comes to those who can
weather the storm.” I Ching No. 3

“The successful man is the average man, focused.” Anonymous

“Getting what you go after is success; but liking it while you are getting it is happiness.” Anonymous

So, what do they have in common?

What these quotes have in common is that they’re all someone’s else’s quotes, someone else’s notion of success.

What
I often find in my work are many who walk around with someone else’s
neat, cool, pithy success definition swimming around in their mind, but
have never personalized it – so it’s a “nice idea” but at 9:00 Monday
morning they’re mired in their own mis-alignment, confusion, self-doubt
and mis-direction as they’re attempting to gain “success” by mimicking
another’s dream or another’s (idea of) success.

For me, the most
important tool for success is reflection, deep reflection which many
cannot or will not undertake. Thus, they live a life of indecision and
dis-harmony as there’s little to no alignment between what they say,
feel, think and do.

On the other hand, many of these folks define
success as “results”. But getting results without learning something
about one’s self often leads to an incomplete and often
“un-success-ful” life in the short or long term. Do-ing alone (i.e.,
results) without be-ing is not a solid formula for success. Perhaps the
“successful” Bernie Ebbers of Enron and others who ended up in ignominy
and infamy and testaments to this.

Many folks accomplish results
(”success?”) but without personal growth – and often wonder why they
don’t feel better, alive, fulfilled – often admitting they don’t
experience good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling
relationships, creative freedom, emotional and psychological stability,
a sense of well-being, and peace of mind, albeit they say they are
“successful”.

For me, the idea many have of success, can be
quickly obliterated just as if they had written the word “success” in
the sand on the beach – ephemeral – wiped out in a moment by a wave (of
uncertainly, a hurricane, health issue, job loss, divorce, accident,
old age, bank failure, etc.). Or, can it? It depends.

For some
folks success can be gone in an instant; for others, not so, regardless
of the circumstances. True success is perhaps discerning the difference.

So,
I guess there’s “success” and there’s “success”. Are the rich
successful? The starving artist? The person in the corner office on the
52nd floor? The person in the mail room in the basement? You? Me?

Being
successful requires a conscious exploration of what success means to
you – creating your own quote. Until and unless you take the time to
define success for yourself, there’s a good chance someone else is
defining success for you. Is that OK?.

So, if you lack you own success quotation, perhaps today is the ideal time to begin to create one.

So, some questions for self-reflection are:

Do you consider yourself successful? If so, using what criteria?
Are you ever jealous or envious of others’ success?
Do you ever feel empty, unhappy, or unfulfilled even though you are a success? If so, why do you think that’s so?
How do you define “rich”?
Is your self-worth defined by your net worth?
How much of your life is spent doing what you think you “should do” as opposed to doing what you “want to do”?
Do you find meaning, fulfillment and happiness in your life at work, at home, at play and in relationship?
Do you plan your vacations with more care, attention and detail than you plan your life?
Do you ever fear success?
Do you have true and real fun in your life? If not, why not?
Do you learn from your mistakes?
How did you come to be a “success?” How are you coming to be successful?

“Even
the most daring and accomplished people have undergone tremendous
difficulty. In fact, the more successful they became, the more they
attributed their success to the lessons learned during their most
difficult times. Adversity is our teacher. When we view adversity as a
guide towards greater inner growth, we will then learn to accept the
wisdom our soul came into this life to learn.” — Barbara Rose