Creating the life that you want begins with you. So if things are not how you want them to be there is a fair chance that it is down to you. Yes, in some way you have created the life that you have and have attracted the people and things that you have around you. I guess some of you are feeling uncomfortable at that thought.

Ask yourself the following questions.
Do you believe that life just happens to you and that you have no control?
Do you think that you are responsible for everything that has happened in your life?

If you think it just happens then you probably act as though you are a victim of circumstances and just allow stuff to happen, complaining about your lot in life or perhaps just accepting that this is how it is and you have no choice. Sound familiar? The truly successful , happy people in life know that this is not the case. They are very aware of the part they have played in their success and have taken responsibility to do something about it. They know what they want and go and get it!

Knowing what you want is half the battle. If only it were that easy. Although for some this is also a struggle.

So what has self-esteem got to do with this?

If you don’t have high self-esteem then you will not feel good about yourself which in turn will attract poor relationships and poor quality of life. The chances are you are making poor decisions about who you spend your time with and what you do with your life. The decisions you make will be affected and so will the results you get in life. If you have low self-esteem then you will not value yourself as well as you need to.

What do you need to do?

1. Give yourself a self-esteem rating from 1 to 10 with one being low and 10 high. Awareness of how you feel about yourself is key.
2. Write down 10 things you like about yourself.
3. Write down all the things you dislike about yourself.

Now look at some of the things on the list of dislikes and decide how you can improve them. Aim to remove them all.